Thursday, November 29, 2012

Troll

He'd always gotten on my nerves a little bit. He would flirt, but I'd never been interested in him. He was far too old for me, far too loud, and somewhat vulgar.  I put up with him only because he was a part of the weekly noise. He'd pass through on Saturdays, fill the tortillas, yuk it up with the guys, and then leave as quickly as he came.

He'd tried to give me a friendly hug before the holidays. He reached for me with a big smile on his face, as if I should be so tickled for the attention. I stepped away and half-laughed, "Have you met me? I do not HUG!" That was only sort of funny, because I had known the man for maybe fifteen or sixteen years. I had never given him any indication that he should ever need to hug me.

Everybody was looking, and he's Mr. Funny, so he laughed it off as a joke, and I honestly thought that was the end of it. I had seen the little glimmer of disappointment in his eyes, but I never thought he'd come back a week later and try it again.

Here's the thing: if a girl uses the F-word and tells you plainly to keep your EFFing hands off her, you should probably start taking her seriously right away. You probably shouldn't keep trying, hoping that she'll change her mind mid-sentence. You should definitely not come back for more when she's got her back turned to you. It is not funny or cute or even within acceptable social parameters to force a full body hug on a girl who has just told you a few minutes ago to fuck off and die.

The way I see it, he's lucky he's still got his teeth.

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  1. Oh, dear and I'm sorry.

    There have been girls I've known, when faced with similar situations, have fed the offending male his own genitalia whilst alpha-males vying for said girls' attention are making valiant proclaimations of what they'll do the next time the offending party does something offensive.

    Gotta love assertive women...

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    1. That alpha males missed the whole thing, which makes me believe he waited for just the right moment. But happily, the man is no longer allowed in our store.

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  2. HA!

    The majority of men are clueless. :-)

    Pearl

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  3. Many times of late, I have been ashamed to be a member of this race of men. Some guys are like that though, and you may even find that secretly the other men that laugh at him also consider him a pig. Sorry to hear about this problem. If you ignore will he go away?

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    1. No need to ignore him My boss had his route changed so he doesn't come to our store any more. (I like my boss.)

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  4. Glad you told him where to go. He sounds like a creep.

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    1. He had never been a creep for all the years I've known him. This was a sudden outburst of creep-ocity. I just don't know what got into him.

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  5. I can see the whole situation. Good for your boss, and I hope he told the jerk he has a new route because he is a jerk.

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    1. Thank you, Joanne. I am sure he used some very specific language. His support meant quite a bit to me.

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  6. I usually get the hint after somebody says "fuck off and die", lol! I am not a hugger of strangers. I usually have to know somebody pretty well or at least have a good feeling that they aren't deranged before I go in for physical contact.

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    1. You must have been raised right! lol

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  7. Hear hear Nessa, I've written about that subject and it makes me see red - can't stand that sort of behaviour.

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    1. well, thankfully, it was taken care of instead of being swept under the rug. It's sad, but I think changing his route was necessary.

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  8. This hugging all over the place, by people you don't want to hug is a really bad habit. Give him a knee in the balls and he will stop it.

    Cold As Heaven

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    1. It's silly, but I actually hug people ALL the time, especially when they really need it. THAT guy, though, was just being a jerk, and he might be the type that LIKES a knee to the balls!

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